tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post7512271879993445718..comments2023-09-17T19:20:35.871+05:30Comments on Icy Highs : When a dude looks like a ladyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00606857660947384949noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-62237142325665465512012-04-17T16:16:48.988+05:302012-04-17T16:16:48.988+05:30No argument there, Siddhartha. Read up a fair bit ...No argument there, Siddhartha. Read up a fair bit on the topic after this post; was a very informative experience.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00606857660947384949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-54402356153952181062012-04-12T08:37:08.857+05:302012-04-12T08:37:08.857+05:30The post is interesting, but the comments are way ...The post is interesting, but the comments are way more interesting...and I might add, informative.Siddhartha Joshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05491032744023383158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-68843951035601552902012-01-26T19:07:27.930+05:302012-01-26T19:07:27.930+05:30Good.
Because if I could, I'd reach through th...Good.<br />Because if I could, I'd reach through this computer and box your ears!<br /><br />xxx<br /><br />Now go back to your 'Dragon' post comments and soothe your wounded self.red dirt girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12939283533222061484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-30157518174754740772012-01-26T17:25:15.819+05:302012-01-26T17:25:15.819+05:30*sulk*
Seriously though, I'm going to go read...*sulk*<br /><br />Seriously though, I'm going to go read up and learn. Always been fascinated by it, and never got round to it.<br />Red, that was some telling off. I feel like I've just been spanked silly.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00606857660947384949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-44165963452866963822012-01-26T10:33:38.834+05:302012-01-26T10:33:38.834+05:30Icy,
I suggest you review the definitions of the t...Icy,<br />I suggest you review the definitions of the terms you are using. Gender neutrality theory is not a lifestyle but a psychological theory regarding nature vs. nurture in the formation of gender identity (the link explains it much better than I.)<br /><br />Physical androgyny, which deals with physical traits, is distinct from behavioral androgyny which deals with personal and social anomalies in gender, and from psychological androgyny, which is a matter of gender identity.<br /><br /><i>Take a gay couple - there's always a man and a woman (in terms of social norms). </i> You are patently wrong in this assertion. It is a popular (yet erroneous) 'belief' amongst heterosexuals when describing gay relationships.<br /><br />I have yet to read in your post what your definition of an androgynous lifestyle is. Instead, you cite current pop cultural trends (insert fad or fashion as you wish here) as your points of reference.<br /><br />I certainly agreed that androgyny as a trend has made its rounds in history time and again. <br /><br />As for pubic hair: <i>I prefer a clean shave, or a landing strip at best- I don't see it as male tyranny, just something special being done for me by somebody I love. Just like I'd keep myself in shape or whatever for her.</i><br /><br />I'm not sure whether you are being disingenuous here or just ridiculously naive !! <br /><br />I'm going to avoid the politics of it; the psychology of it (you've already pointed out that it looks like the vulva of a child); I'll send you to a short history of this trend <a href="http://tinyurl.com/7rqmd3e" rel="nofollow">here</a> for your 'enlightenment'. And instead, I wish to focus on what one does special for the sake of one's love .... <br /><br />Really, Icy? Are you truly ready and willing to spread your legs wide open and have all your pubic hair ripped off with hot wax? And no, not just the hair around your cock, but the hair on your testicles and in your butt crack as well? Are you willing to pay good money, twice a month, to maintain the smooth, hairless sex of a prepubescent child for the one you love ??? because it will make her feel special ??<br /><br />Where does acceptance and unconditional love enter in to this construct? Where are you learning to love another, flaws and all, accepting another's imperfections, learning to love 'as she is' rather than as you wish her to be? Where are you learning to give of yourself - your heart, your soul, your trust, your love - not based on whether she meets your mythical ideal criteria, but by the simple fact that she moves your heart? your soul? she excites your mind?<br /><br />Man-child are you simply that shallow?<br /><br />xxxred dirt girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12939283533222061484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-23946393656728626562012-01-25T17:02:08.766+05:302012-01-25T17:02:08.766+05:30Hi Robin, I agree it would make an interesting rea...Hi Robin, I agree it would make an interesting read. We could call it 'Chaneling Andrej'! I'm incapable of writing YA though - think you're up for it?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00606857660947384949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-55900052560653809752012-01-25T16:56:39.137+05:302012-01-25T16:56:39.137+05:30Ooh, can of worms there, Red. I will read the link...Ooh, can of worms there, Red. I will read the link you posted (looking forward to it) but gender-neutrality as a lifestyle has been around much longer than since the 50s anyway. Its not just dressing up gender-contrarily, its attitudes and temperament as well. Take a gay couple - there's always a man and a woman (in terms of social norms). <br /><br />The fad distinction only works with respect to fashion, I think. Surely, there's more acceptance of androgyny as a lifestyle now? Ten years ago, people in India would question the masculinity of stay-at-home dads. (Not that its androgynous, just a softening of gender definitions) Maybe a few hipsters will jump on the bandwagon for the hell of it, but if that makes it easier for the real folk to be themselves, it can only be a good thing. The flash will disappear, but I think there will be a much healthier understanding between genders. <br /><br />As for the carpet, I can see the infant-connection but beauty is subjective, surely? I prefer a clean shave, or a landing strip at best- I don't see it as male tyranny, just something special being done for me by somebody I love. Just like I'd keep myself in shape or whatever for her. Why's that so bad? <br /><br />Funny about your boy - my dad was always real nervous around me 'coz I preferred books to playing outside in the summer. It was the bloody tropics, and I just don't like sunlight - what's a boy to do?!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00606857660947384949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-34222490025138198502012-01-25T08:44:42.034+05:302012-01-25T08:44:42.034+05:30ps. With my first child, a boy, I decided he woul...ps. With my first child, a boy, I decided he would not be allowed to play with any 'weapons' - toy guns, sabers, light swords etc. Being the inventive child that he is, he created his own weapons out of legos, tree branches, rocks ... and proceeded killing the 'bad guys' regardless of my misguided good intentions. <br /><br />Thank god for that!<br />xxxred dirt girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12939283533222061484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-36503092557598100382012-01-25T08:01:37.769+05:302012-01-25T08:01:37.769+05:30Personally, I just think it is a fad. One that get...Personally, I just think it is a fad. One that gets recycled every third or so generation (who can forget the boyish girls of the roaring twenties and their counterparts, the cone breasted sweater girls of the fifties ??)<br /><br />I don't find Andrej particular attractive as a male or female. I, myself, am thoroughly and enjoyably feminine, prefer men as lovers, and find women to be incredibly erotic.<br /><br />I don't see progression here, Icy. Just recycling. Gender neutrality theory isn't new, but was developed in the 1950's by Dr. John Money. You can read about it <a href="http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/horizon/2000/boyturnedgirl.shtml" rel="nofollow">here.</a><br /><br />And, as fads go, if you were a lesbian, you wouldn't be carpet munching as carpets are no longer in fashion, having given way to the high maintenance imitation of smooth prepubescent pubes. A fad I find much more disturbing, psychologically, than androgyny.<br /><br />xxxred dirt girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12939283533222061484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-70263054510297657312012-01-24T21:52:11.831+05:302012-01-24T21:52:11.831+05:30If the YA market was looking for an original idea ...If the YA market was looking for an original idea I think this would be it. In this day I think more and more people are taking in the idea of experimentation and being androgynous in their identity. Gender-bending has been everywhere through the centuries from Shakespeare to Rocky Horror to Bowie and now Lady Gaga. I'd love to read about a teenager choosing to experiment like that. Would be fantastic and really interesting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4658089399678903565.post-66532499455425454222012-01-24T21:48:33.421+05:302012-01-24T21:48:33.421+05:30Andrej is amazing.
Nothing more to say about the ...Andrej is amazing. <br />Nothing more to say about the subject.Laura Ilonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14163374373691635158noreply@blogger.com